Grief & Loss
Losing someone or something you care about is painful. And grief always follows. It's a normal process, with both physical and emotional signs. But even with major life changes, such as the loss of a spouse or parent, you can face the loss and move on.
Losses we grieve over
Everyone feels a major loss at some point in life. These are just some of the types of loss you might be facing:
- The death of a family member or friend
- Health issues such as a permanent injury, chronic illness or aging
- A breakup, separation or divorce
- The loss of a job, a change in income or other life changes.
How loss changes us
Loss leaves a "hole" in your life where what you lost used to be. The loss can affect the way you see yourself. Your daily routine changes if you have lost a partner, child or parent. Your self-image may change if you are no longer healthy. After a divorce, you may need to think about life on your own.
Grief takes many forms
Grief isn't just about sadness. It may make you experience a range of intense feelings. In fact, grief is often described as having five stages. They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. So from moment to moment, you may:
- Not want to believe the loss is real
- Feel annoyed or outright angry
- Think you could have done something to stop the loss
- Have sad moods and feel hopeless
- Accept that the loss is real and that you can cope
You're not alone
There's no individual timeline for grief. And it can't be rushed. But that doesn't mean you have to shoulder the burden on your own.
Talking about your grief can help - whether it's with a family member, a close friend or a therapist. Medication can also be helpful in some situations.